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Addiction...something understood

Posted by Simon Parke, 23 October 2017, 5.07pm


It is much spoken of these days; our addictions seem endless.

And sometimes, hopeless.

We speak of ‘addictive personalities’ to bring order to the matter.

‘If I have one drink, I won’t be able to stop.’

‘I can’t have any chocolates in the house. If I did, I would eat them all.’

People who can’t do moderation.

Most of us are addicts to one degree or another, particularly when life is difficult.

Addiction is when we bond with an imaginary solution, whether it’s gambling, alcohol, control, sleeping pills, sex, anxiety, self-harm, food, danger…or whatever.

It’s a last resort, of course; addiction is no one’s first choice.

It’s not something we aspire to when setting out in life; but something we stumble into.

It arises along the way when we cannot be present to our life as it is; and to ourselves as we are.

Humans need connection with themselves, with others, with creation, to bring meaning and vitality.

When a sense of connection is broken or lost, and when we cannot be present to life as it is, we seek alternative ways to bond with existence.

As Johann Hari - journalist and TED speaker - wrote, ‘The opposite of addiction is not sobriety; the opposite of addiction is connection.’

True words…and amid the pain, hopeful.

So here’s a toast to connection in our lives, or perhaps re-connection; and to the dissolving power of last choice addiction. 

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