Posted by Simon Parke, 20 November 2017, 10.45am
Do you have an anchorhold?
It may not be a helpful image but bear with me until you find an image that does help.
Behind the word is the idea of a safe place inside you, a place where you exist, independent of all that is happening around you - the turbulence, the claims, the joys and demands.
So here you are not defined by others; nor are you defined by any perceived successes or failures on your part.
Ultimately, neither relationship nor achievement is an anchor, for these experiences shift and vary.
And neither are my hopes, which have so little substance.
The original idea of the anchor is the stability it gives the boat in a storm. Without it, at the mercy of rolling waves and hidden currents, there is the danger of shipwreck.
One famous violinist sat in solitude the day after performance, recovering himself; it was here in solitude that he most truly existed, away from the public response, positive or otherwise, to his particular genius.
And a woman spoke to me recently about an image that arose in her, where she was standing at the centre of a storm - yet quite untouched by the tornado around her.
It was a still centre.
‘That’s my anchorhold, Simon. I don’t know where it came from, but I can go back there in my mind. I feel quite safe there, whatever is happening around me.’
The anchorhold could be a place in your body, it could be your breathing, it could be an image.
It’s a place where you can always go.
Sometimes it will be a refuge when life is difficult; and sometimes it will simply be a celebration, an affirmation of your existence.
Here you can breathe, smile and live.
Here you exist wonderfully.